We often find that relationships, friendships, and any forms of emotional attachment leave you vulnerable to heartbreak. Heartbreak may reveal itself in many forms: rejection, break-ups, extreme disappointment, loss, and countless other ways. Everyone deals with heartbreak in their unique way, and “getting over it” is easier said than done.
Having your heart broken has numerous effects, such as loneliness, unwillingness to eat, occasionally overeating, lack of motivation, or more. Most people experience the five stages of grief as they deal with loss. These five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance.
When we experience the loss of a loved one, it hits us as a shock. Confusion, agony, and rage swirl around our minds like thick dark clouds, and when we are finally ready to accept death, the clouds burst into floods of tears and pain.
It is acceptable to take a step back from our busy routine to process a loss. It depends on how one decides to cope with their loss. Some people prefer hiding under their covers for weeks at a stretch, while others choose to overwork themselves, so they don’t have any time to deal with the actual matter. None of these can be called wrong, mainly because each person is different and has their particular way of coping.
If a friend, family member, or colleague has experienced a loss, you could call them up and check in on them, and you can try to support them through their process of feeling their feelings. It is essential to understand that you cannot force them to feel a certain way, and derogatory phrases like ‘get over it,’ ‘that’s a fact of life,’ or other such phrases will only hurt them further. Instead, be supportive, be respectful, and be a good listener because sometimes that’s all one needs to recover.